Coping strategies: share your worries

(LighterLife Route to Management – Week12 Day 4)

I couldn’t survive without my friends. They lift me up and bring me back down to earth, depending on what is needed.

So I’m in the middle of a job decision which has become huge in my mind. I’ve been mulling it over and over and OVER in my head, not able to concentrate on much else, and definitely not able to talk about anything else… And just when I thought I was going totally out of my mind, I had two separate phone conversations today with friends who injected a gentle dose of reality to my thoughts. And though I’m still very scared of whether I’m making the right decision, I’m now more confident that it won’t be the wrong decision.

One of my friends helped me see how I need to keep putting myself first as I’ve now successfully been doing since the beginning of this year. She pointed out the value of working in an environment that is supportive and nurturing, and offers back-up if and when I need it. Instead of taking on more uncertainty and risking the balance that I’ve now managed to build into my life. And my other friend reminded me through a story of her own that I’m really not the first nor last person on earth to get nervous about or lose sleep over changing jobs. That most people face uncertainty rather badly, but once the decision’s been made, they are able to move on. And so will I.

And I realised that what I REALLY WANT TO DO is keep taking care of myself!!!!! And you know what? I feel SO RELIEVED!! :D I don’t know what’s been going on in my head but just admitting that I really, really want to keep taking care of ME, has made me feel all fuzzy and comfortable inside. I’m not saying all the anxiousness has been wiped away, uh-huh. And the decision is not yet ‘out there’ nor final.

But now I know what it will be based on. Thank you!!!!!!!!!

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